Someone once said, "It's better to do something imperfectly than to do nothing flawlessly." Ever since I was a young child, I confused confidence with arrogance. The pretentious neighborhood I grew up in as a teenager reinforced my value of humility which I thoroughly internalized throughout the course of my young adult life. I would later learn that this is not always the best trait to have. There must be some sense of balance and adaption where you can still have a humble nature AND be self-confident and feel it's OK to show that confidence. I know this sounds really weird for some of you but you have to understand that I have a backstory like everyone else around the world does and backstories best explain the roots that formed from the seeds they planted. But this blog is no place to share backstories. I will say this, however; like anything else in life, there must be a balance to the dance of the universe. If you are too this or too that, then this sort of imbalance occurs where your sense of self can get muddled. Sometimes to get it back we might filter our stance and self-understanding through experiences long passed or through the stance of others who may or may not have our best interest at heart. Adapting and realigning one's nature can be challenging but passion, will, determination, and hard work may turn that challenge into a simple heave and a sigh. Someone also once said that if we want something bad enough, we'll do whatever it takes to get there. The power of persistence - even in the face of adversity and failure means growth. The effort means something but the attitude one has means more. And as they say, if you're not growing, you're dying. And I am not ready to die. It's so essential to remain flexible in life and to have the willingness to make revisions along the way. Versatality is a an important character trait to have but also is the ability to adapt one's nature to the needs or circumstances of any given situation. Anyone that has ever known me knows I can be a pretty analytical creature. But I realize it has its time and place. Should I choose to reserve this deeper lever of thought for moments when it is most suitable to do so, it will not mean I am vapid or that I am living life unconsciously, or that I am otherwise being superficial - which I would absolutely hate to be. It just means that I am exercising my ability to adjust to a situation accordingly. Obviously, the lessons I have learned in the last year are many but the greatest so far is the one that has taught me to have an unwavering sense of faith in myself and in my sense of self to have unwavering self-confidence - despite the imperfections that may or may not exist. If people focus more on what they CAN do instead of what they can't, the sense of self-confidence will reveal itself all on its own. Believing in yourself - despite character flaws and all, is not arrogant; not caring about anyone else but yourself or thinking you are superior to others is. Believing you are capable of doing certain things well - despite imperfect starts for flawless results is not arrogant. Believing that you never need to change or grow is. So no more will I miscontrue the strange beliefs I held from long ago that one can't live with both self-confidence and humility...that one must choose to be one or the other. But one need not be compromised for the other. We can be both and still have our integrity.
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Bye good friends!
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We have lost Cookie and aunt Marla in the past year. Me and my family are
super sad! But I hope this wont ruin Cookies fame still!
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